It is tempting when things continually go wrong to blame an incompetent manager. Peter Quarry, psychology expert, suggests first doing a reality check with someone independent (it might be a personality clash causing the problem). Try clearly communicating your needs to the manager while negotiating outcomes. Be flexible and share coping strategies with others. If you can no longer cope, it may be time to leave that team. Key Learning Points If you believe you have an incompetent manager, Peter Quarry suggests that you: Get your facts straight. Talk to someone independent. Communicate your needs to your manager. Negotiate the outcomes. Be flexible and prepared to change. Share coping strategies with others. If it becomes unbearable, leave before you are damaged.