Women's ways of NOing (introduction) -- There's NO place like home for the holidays (saying no to parents) -- Getting to NO you (saying no to dates and mates) -- NOthing personal (saying no to friends) -- Opportunity-- NOts (when saying no at work doesn't work for you) -- No-nonsense NOs (saying no at work) -- Saying NO when the president calls (saying no in public service) -- NOblesse oblige (saying no in the community) -- NOt on your life! (saying no to assault and harassment) -- Doctor, NO (saying no to your shrink or doctor) -- NOble intentions (saying no as a caregiver) -- Heavens NO! (saying no to the dead and dying).