Stepping forward : understanding the foundations -- Knitting your kid! : patterns of knitting and nurturing -- Fitting the pieces together -- What can we do? -- Key concepts -- Information : the need to know -- Laying the foundations : co-regulation for self-regulation -- Rocking and rolling -- Seeing eye to eye -- Object permanence (OP) and constancy (OC) -- Talking, telling, timing -- Loose connections -- The child within the child -- Taking, borrowing and difficulties with the truth -- Making changes, managing changes -- Special occasions -- Holidays -- Siblings -- Taking care of ourselves -- Getting help -- Appendices -- Glossary -- Index.