The fake cupcake problem (Why we needed to write this book) -- I love being a mom - I just hate doing it (Align your expectations with reality) -- You can have it all - just not all at once (Make peace with your choices) -- Am I a bad mom if I don't buy organic SpaghettiOs? (Lose the judgment) -- I count the hours she spends with the nanny and make sure I have more (Let go of the guilt) -- Just give us a rule book - we can't read minds (Tell him what you need) -- When you say mom, it leaves a lot unsaid about you (Honor your whole self) -- You know what? It ain't gonna happen (Just say no) -- Oh, my God, I don't want to color right now (Live in the moment) -- Where do we go from here?.